How to Move On and Thrive
Bouncing back from a tough situation ain’t easy, kākou. Whether you’re dealing with a breakup, job loss, or just a plain ol’ setback, it’s natural to feel all kinds of emotions like being upset, sad, or just plain frustrated. But lemme tell you, there are a bunch of things that can make it easier or harder to get over something quickly.
Let’s talk about the factors that can make it easier to bounce back. One of the biggest things is gaining a new perspective on the situation. Sometimes, seeing things from a different angle or getting advice from someone you trust can help you see things in a new light and make it less of a big deal. Time can also be a big factor since your emotional reaction can get less intense or even fade away over time. People who are emotionally resilient tend to bounce back faster, and having good coping skills can help manage your emotions and work through tough times easier. And last but not least, having a solid hui of hoaaloha (friends), ʻohana (family), or professionals can give you the kākoʻo (support) and encouragement you need to move past a tough situation quicker.
When it comes to getting over a difficult situation, there are some things that can really get in the way and make it a struggle. One of the most common obstacles is emotional attachment. When we’re emotionally invested in something or someone, it can be incredibly hard to let go and move on. Whether it’s a breakup, a job loss, or any other kind of disappointment or setback, feeling attached to the situation can make it hard to see a way forward.
Another factor that can make it harder to get over something is trauma. Experiencing a traumatic event can have a lasting effect on our emotional and mental health, and can make it tough to move on from the situation and its aftermath. Trauma can also trigger negative thought patterns that make it hard to work through our emotions and move on. It’s important to remember that healing from trauma is a process, and it may take time and effort to work through the difficult emotions that come with it.
A lack of closure can also make it harder to get over something. When we don’t have a clear resolution to a situation or we feel like we didn’t get the closure we needed, it can be hard to move on. Negative thought patterns can also get in the way, causing us to dwell on the past or worry about the future, instead of focusing on the present moment and what we can do to move forward.
Finally, a lack of support can make it hard to work through difficult emotions and move on. Having a supportive network of friends, family, or professionals can provide us with the emotional support and encouragement we need to move past a difficult situation more quickly. On the other hand, if we don’t have access to this kind of support, it can be much harder to work through our emotions and find a way forward.
Now, everyone’s situation is different, so what makes it easier or harder to bounce back will vary. But recognizing these potential obstacles can help you develop strategies to overcome them and move forward. Here are some tips to keep in mind:
- Show yourself some love and be kind as you work through those difficult emotions. Be patient and let yourself heal.
- Get support from people you trust, like your homies, fam, or even a professional. It’s helpful to talk to someone who can listen and offer a different perspective.
- Focus on the here and now and take things one step at a time. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future, just focus on what you can control.
- Do things that make you happy and fulfilled, whether it’s spending time with loved ones, doing a hobby, or taking care of yourself. These positive experiences can help counterbalance the negative emotions you’re feeling.
Getting over something is tough, but it’s doable. By recognizing the factors that can make it easier or harder and developing strategies to work through your emotions, you can move forward and find some peace and closure.